What really matters?
So, when you think about everything you do every day, what really matters? How much of what we do - and where we spend our time - is around tasks that matter?
Since one of my master mind groups finished Peter Block's "The Answer to How is Yes," I've thought a lot more about that question. Sure there are lots of things that happen in the world that I have no control over; but there are a lot more things I can control than I actually do, and the biggest of that is what happens right between my ears.
One way to begin to notice how caught up in external events and affairs we have become is to turn off the radio when you get in the car. I know, that might seem like a tough thing to do, but just play with it. Notice what you notice when you've got a little bit of down time. What is that little voice in your head saying?
I noticed things a lot differently yesterday when I was a passenger in a car on a 3-hour road trip. Usually I'm the driver, so yesterday was a great opportunity for me to notice my own responses and reactions to my friend's way of driving. I noticed that I wanted to say things like "slow down" and "that car is stopping ahead" and "this is the exit we want to take" but I didn't say any of those things. I realize that my friend is perfectly capable of driving without my advice. There were times I actually found myself looking out the window and enjoying the scenery instead of having my eyes on the occasional snow that was drifting across the road.
What really matters in interactions like the one I had yesterday in the car? Me asserting my perceived control over the situation or occasional silence to enjoy things I take for granted?
Think about the conversations you have in your life. What percentage of the things you say are statements? What percentage are questions? I'll bet most of us have the statement thing down cold ... why not try a question instead?
Let's get creative in our questioning - and then listen to the answers. Together we can build new awareness of what really does matter, and what really doesn't matter so much.
What are you noticing?