Tuesday, September 04, 2007

Shiny Happy People

I got a very cool comment on the previous post from Dr. Susan (thanks for the inspiration for this post, Dr. Susan!) and she asks why those negative and self-defeating thoughts are just so darn tempting. She says "It sometimes seems like these thoughts masquerade as sparkly things we can't resist gravitating towards."

Funny (no coincidence, I know) that I used that exact analogy during a conversation just this week.

I really believe the first step toward new results in our lives is awareness. We really can't be expected to be accountable for information we don't have. I think that's where the phrase "ignorance is bliss" came from.

When we learn new information, we then have new awareness, and can make new choices. And we don't need to learn exclusively from our mistakes. Don't we also learn from what made us happy? If we make a mistake, and we're stuck in pre-awareness, we won't see the mistake as a gift of awareness - we will just punish ourselves for not being perfect. The reality is that the perfection lies in our imperfection, but our eyes are closed to the gift in the "mistake" which would really lead us to higher awareness.

Of course, with new information (in form) and new inspiration (in spirit) comes the unfamiliar (and often uncomfortable) zone. We've gotten so used to living our lives with our heads down, berating ourselves for our mistakes, that we've failed to see that many times we're in an infinity loop of sameness - same mistakes over and over without seeing them as the gifts they are. That familiar zone isn't comfortable anymore, but so many people prefer uncomfortable familiarity over something new, which could offer a way out of the downward spiral.

The new feeling of unfamiliarity offers so many rewards and opportunities to see at a new level. It reminds me of my life theme song, Dan Fogelberg's "The Higher You Climb," which I found represented so well graphically on a website a long time ago.

The higher you climb, you really do have a different view. But if our eyes are fixed on the ground, we will never see things differently. Shiny and sparkly objects on the ground will keep our gaze fixed there - but there is so much more to see looking up. Shiny happy people have so much more to teach us than sparkly objects at our feet.

Just for today, lift up your head and notice what you notice beyond your old way of seeing. Notice the gifts that are there just waiting to be discovered as you venture on a new path. Don't become accustomed to the dark ... let your eyes adjust to the light. That's when you'll stumble upon happiness - when you stop pursuing it.


At 5:51 PM, Blogger Nick Smith said...

"That's when you'll stumble upon happiness - when you stop pursuing it.."

Jodee, for so long I had difficulty coming to terms with "The world I see holds nothing that I want" and for me this sentence of yours really gets to the heart of the matter. Joy isn't something we ever find but something we bring with us, isn't it? I think this is the Big Secret that the shiny happy people have discovered.

Those that bind themselves to a joy
Doth thy winged life destroy
But those that kiss the joy as it flies
Live in eternity's sunrise
... Blake

Thanks for this Jodee.. it really hit the spot :-)

At 7:02 AM, Blogger Jodee Bock said...


Again, no coincidences. Your contributions here are perfect and I'm so glad I was able to provide you a miracle when you needed it. I've also struggled with "The world I see holds nothing that I want" until the awareness hit and that made sense to me on another level.

I believe Joy is a choice, just like stress and anger - we just choose differently at different levels of awareness. It's much easier to choose Joy now, wouldn't you agree? I'm starting to learn that those sparkly things tarnish, and that's the point: to learn, at least for me in this lifetime.

Thank you, as always, for adding your wisdom. I'm committed to meeting you in person one of these days!

At 12:38 AM, Blogger Herman said...

Les Brown says that our main problem is that we prefer "strange hells to known heavens". We get into a cycle of continuous failure because we do not embrace lessons from both our past and present to enable us break into a better future. One author said, "If we don't learn from the lessons the past has taught us, we will be given many more opportunities to learn those lessons" (The 100% Factor, pg 9). Being open to learning from every season and experience in our lives is key to living the 100% life.

At 10:05 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Great post, I agree with it all.

It's also interesting to note that many great things in life (fitness, health, love, achievement) are disguised as bad things (sacrifice and hard work).

BTW, I love the title of your blog. Yes we all know most of this stuff... but it means nothing unless we apply it.


At 8:13 AM, Blogger Jodee Bock said...

Matthew and Herman:

I'm so grateful that you stopped by and left comments here! I apologize for the gap in my response (see today's post!) but that doesn't mean I didn't read what you said and very much appreciate it!


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