Thursday, May 22, 2008

Does the Loudest Voice Always Win?

So I got a chance to actually participate in the Fargo Marathon this past weekend when I made my way through the 5K event. I'm not a runner, but that's the beauty of the 5K: it's a FUN run!

This is the 4th year for the Fargo Marathon and it's grown from 2,500 participants the first year to nearly 13,000 this year! It's a lot of crazy fun! People have parties in their yards to help cheer the runners on and this year we had participants from each of the 50 states and several countries. It's really starting to gain national recognition and people are getting a chance to see why I love living in Fargo!

With that said, today I stumbled across a forum sponsored by our local newspaper where people were asked to share their thoughts about the marathon. What I realized is that there are lots and lots of positive comments, but a few people who really feel the need to criticize or use the forum as an opportunity to rant and rave anonymously.

If the voice of the ego speaks first and speaks loudest, how much attention should we really give to the ranting and raving voices? And if the loudest voice wins, is there a need to compete?

I've been thinking lately about the statement "Defense is the first offense," and I'm wondering why I would ever feel the need to defend anything, including an opinion. Does my truth really need defending? On the other hand, if the dissenting voice is always going to be the loudest, does that mean that the other voices don't need to be heard?

I guess what I'm wondering most is if we stop feeling the need to defend a position or a candidate or an opinion, will the loudest voice win by default or will the debate go away because one side stops playing? I think of this as it relates especially to religion and politics, two issues that seem to spur a win/lose attitude. What if there was no winner or loser - no right or wrong - no good or bad - there just is what is?

I've noticed that people seem to be realizing that the way they've been doing things just isn't producing the results they'd like in their lives, and they might be ready to take some responsibility for altering their talk to gain different results. Each of us has the opportunity to shift the energy in every conversation - and to choose not to participate in negative talk, whether that's on the radio or the internet or with our families and friends.

Let's stop the defense and, in turn, stop the offense - really, let's just start waking up to the results in our lives and change our minds about what we really want. Once we know what we want, we can choose to stand for that, rather than against something or someone else. Let's create the shift!!


At 5:23 PM, Blogger Eric said...

I saw those comments and thought the same thing. Fortunately, there are a lot more people out there who are not so selfish as some of those commenters.

Sounds like you had a fun race! Thanks for getting out there and being part of this great event. Take care.

At 6:16 PM, Blogger Jodee Bock said...


Thank you so much for stopping! You are really a hero for those of us in North Dakota (for any other readers, you need to know that Eric WON the Fargo Marathon in only his second year of doing marathons! I'm sure you've had your fair share of naysayers in your own life as you embarked upon this marathon path - you are a great example of what we can accomplish when we put our minds to something and don't give up!

Thanks so much for visiting - I hope you'll stop by again! Keep running! (And next year I'm actually going to RUN the entire 5K! After that, who knows?!? ) :)

At 3:31 AM, Blogger circe said...

Jodee, this post speaks to me right now, especially about taking responsibility to create a shift. And defense/offense doesn't take us too far, just into those same old arguments.

At 7:57 AM, Blogger Jodee Bock said...


Yes - all it really does is force us to start asking questions - of ourselves first. And the first question is really "how is what I'm doing working to get me what I want in my life?" If the answer is anything but "very well, thank you," then we have a new choice to make. And that choice is always our own.

I'm reading a fabulous new book right now that I'll be blogging about soon. It's called "Community" by Peter Block and I highly recommend it as the next step beyond personal transformation, which many of us are still working on. It actually gives me fuel to keep going on my personal transformation road because I know that in community I can also support others as together we move toward our desired futures.

Thank you so much for posting!

At 2:07 PM, Blogger Chris F said...


I read those negative comments, actually felt compelled to leave a positive note there myself.

It's fabulous to see so many people making a conscious choice to find themselves, and in the process, we are finding each other.

Too Cool!

At 5:37 PM, Blogger Jodee Bock said...

Yes, Chris - that's the beauty of the blogosphere ... we really are creating a community of like-minded thinkers! Thanks for stopping by!


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